WTF?

Can we talk about guys for a moment? Men. Boys. Whatever.

I got a call from a friend to join her and some other friends for
dinner recently. Before she hung-up, she told me some news that
shocked and angered me about another friend (who would also be with us
for dinner). Since I don't know how my friend would feel about being
in my blog, I'll call her Sarah.

It seems that Sarah's husband, we'll call him DICK, turned to her one
night a few months ago and said, "By the way, I'm moving out tomorrow.
Goodnight."
He wouldn't discuss it or explain. He would have nothing to do with
her. She got no warning at all. He moved out the next day, like he
said he would, and it was a bit later, when Sarah got the cell phone
records that she discovered he was cheating. I have hung out with DICK
before and he seemed like a perfectly nice person.
Apparently, he's not. Not only has he left Sarah, who is a completely
wonderful person, he's been a real, well, DICK about it.

Then there's my friend Kate, who recently met an guy, we'll call him
LAME, at a bar. She was impressed with the fact that he called her
everyday. They were not short chats, either. They were long, engaged,
interesting conversations. After about a week or more of this, she was
excited when LAME said we was coming to the area to help a friend with
some work on their house and would love to meet up with her (LAME
lives in Miami, about an hour or more away).
She was looking forward to his call on Sunday, when he SAID he would call.
LAME never did. And she has not yet heard from him.

Then, there's a slightly different situation that Marie is dealing
with. Marie went on a few dates with a guy who she began to like very
much. He, we'll call him BUMMER, decided he didn't feel the same way,
and he felt bad about it because he really thought she was cool and
interesting and they had a lot in common. They would often text each
other prior to this change and after he told her he wasn't interested
romantically, she made a point not to contact him. She refused to be
one of those women who acted like they are fine with just being
friends with a guy when really they are waiting for him to get his
head out of his ass and come to his senses about her. That crap only
happens in 1980s brat pack flicks. It appears now that he really does
want to be friends because he is in contact fairly regularly. The
problem is, she feels when she makes friends with someone, part of
that is showing interest in the other person, asking questions about
their lives, showing support for things going on with them, etc. She
does this.
BUMMER does not.
And then she realized there was a distinct possibility that whether he
realized it or not, he was in contact be cause she made him feel good
about himself (by treating him as she does all her friends). It
doesn't seem to occur to him to do the same for her.

I am at a loss for these examples.

How can a person love someone and marry them and commit to a life with
them and suddenly throw them out like there was nothing to it, like
DICK did? It's simply not fathomable to me!
Why would a person show so much interest in another person, like
stupendous Kate, and then just stop showing interest with no warning
or explanation? How LAME is that?
If you are in communicating with someone because they make you feel
good because they pay attention and listen like friends generally do,
how much of a BUMMER can you be that it doesn't occur to you that the
behavior should be returned?


PS. I hope DICK falls into a hole and breaks both legs.